How to Stop Stuttering – The Secrets You Already Know Pt 2

I hope you read my previous article, How to Stop Stuttering – The Secrets You Already Know Pt. 1. In this article I'm going to share with you, yes, that's right, Secret # 2 and that is, “Learning to speak smoothly and fluently can be accelerated by passion.”

Okay, I can hear you say, “What in the world does passion have to do with speech fluency?” “This makes no sense at all Michael!” Let me explain. IF we can agree that for some and I believe most people who stutter, stuttering is situational. That is, they do not stutter 100% of the time. They stutter in certain situations at certain times, even around certain people or kinds of people, like those in authority, or strangers. If we can agree on this point, then we can also agree that the person does have the ability to speak fluently and smoothly, at least sometimes.

The only question now is how to expand those periods of fluency and confidence into the totality of ones life. How can we do this? The how is the learning process, the steps, techniques and strategies one uses to achieve this goal of fluency and smoothness. In this article, I'd like to discuss the drive or motivation that pushes someone to enter into and stay in this learning process.

The learning process for many is a long one. It took me several months to see a real difference in my speech. It then took 1 to 2 years to see reflecting changes. Then another 4 years or so before I actually stopped thinking of myself as a stutterer. In other words, I did not feel limited anymore by stuttering. Now, this did not mean that I never stuttered again. Because I was still a bit fearful about reading loud on queue and struggled at times to say certain numbers on the phone. I also experienced difficulty speaking Spanish, but I knew how to overcome that using the strategies I now share in my programs. But what drve me to stick with these strategies year after year until I finally reached a point where I no longer thought about stuttering? Passion! There was something I was intrinsically passionate about that drove and pushed me to keep at it until I could speak fluently and smoothly. What was that something?

For me it was the desire to help others become more productive in life. The vehicle that I would use to do this was speech. For others it may be writing, but I wanted to share via speaking live in public, on audio and later video. This desire was so great in me, it literally drve me to find a way to improve my speech and then stick with that “way” until I saw a difference. How did I know this “way” would work? How did I know if I were headed down a dead-end? Ultimately I did not know 100%. Here is what I did know … I knew that basically everything about me, including my speech was a result of my subconscious thoughts and beliefs. To put it another way, I had developed certain patterns of speech that were now a part of who I believed and thought I was. Why? Who knows. The good news was that this “programming” could have changed or at least overwritten.

My passion for people and helping, which is only one of the many gifts we have as humans (some people are great at math, art, music, mechanics, etc.) and you've got to stick with the process of overwriting that old programming with a new one that only included excellent speaking and not stuttering. Friends, without the passion I doubt if I would have had the strength or desire to stick with it. I'm not saying this is the only way to improve fluency, but I do believe it is one of the most effective and long-term strategies toward this end. What do you think?

Have you ever been so passionate about something that you persisted through extreme difficulty to achieve it? Have you ever wanted something so bad that you found a way to get it even though it took you longer than you expected? I suspect the answer to the above is yes. And, this is why you already know about this secret. You already know that passion can drive you. Now it's a matter of applying this principle of passion to speech. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this.

In the next article we'll finish up by looking at the third and final secret.

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Speech Therapy: Talking to Your Child at an Early Age

It is never too early to start talking to your child. All your child needs to survive is learnt under your tutelage first. It is important that you set aside a lot of time to just speak to your child. Use his or her name frequently in the course of the conversation to help the child identify the name as his or her own.

One way of teaching new words is to point out things that inhabit your child's world. Toys, food and drink, people's names, friends, are the easiest to teach. You can go a step further and teach your child the names of flowers, plants, trees, birds, and animals when you are out on your daily walk or at a picnic in the park.

Talk to your child as you would to anyone else and try to understand the responses even if they are just gestures; encourage all forms of communication. At the same time, you can also point out to things that are of interest and name each thing or person while making sure that you pronounce the words clearly. Children pick up fast and tend to mimic your pronunciation and the way you enunciate.

Include several questions in your conversations, allowing the child time to understand your question and respond either in words or through actions. Repeat your question several times till you get a response. Teaching your child action songs is another good way to get your child to start talking early. Songs that describe the parts of the body, numbers, animals, or the alphabet, suitably illustrated with actions go a long way in laying the foundation for your child to be more expressive.

Encourage your kid to ask questions and give your full attention while you respond. Even if the question is very simple, remember that your child is just a baby and is curious about everything. If you show impatience or do not give any importance to the questions, you will soon enough succeed in shutting your child up.

Your child will thrive in an atmosphere where everyone, both adults and children, speak to each other often. When talking to the child though use simple combination of words according to the level of understanding. Remember to always hold meaningful Conversations with your child, be genuinely interested in what he or she has to say and respond like you normally would to an adult.

A child who is exposed to lots of conversations, laughter, stories, and songs, learns words that would normally be beyond reach. Children brought up in this kind of environment develop faster intellectually, learn to speak and listen effectively, thus honoring their communication skills at an early age even before they enter school.

Parents play a large role in their child's early education, speech and comprehension, and communication skills. It is up to you to provide a safe, secure, and loving home for your child to develop his or her skills.

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Speech Therapy for Toddlers: Some Useful Facts

Is your child dependent to speak and communicates only through gestures? Do you feel that he is not very expressive and beginning to withdraw into a shell? If you have even the vaguest suspicion that your child may have difficulty in expressing himself through words, you need to seek medical intervention.

The sooner a child is started on speech therapy, the better the chances of the child's communication skills and intellect developing rapidly. There is a growing body of evidence that there are a number of children who are just late doing stuff so there may not be a real concern unless the child is over ten months old when he should be able to mouth complete words and not just babble.

Experts believe that children who parents spend quality time reading them stories, playing with them, and talking to them are the ones that will start to speak sooner and with a wider vocabulary. It is also believed that a child who is exposed to a lot of social interaction and which conversations are taken seriously exhibits intellectual superiority over peers. If you suspect that your toddler may be having a speech disorder, you could try training your child to speak at home, which should normally set things straight.

Getting a toddler to do what you want them to do, is a very difficult proposition. Instead, try doing the things the toddler wants to do. Sit down with your child's toys and offer to play with him or her. Notice the toys that get preferential treatment and use those as an award. Keep some yummy treats handy, which you can give as soon as you get the correct response from your child.

Do not spend too much time trying to pull words out of your child's mouth. Remember that you may be able to hold the child's attention for a maximum of ten minutes so do not, at any cost, overstep that limit as that may make the child detest these 'speech' sessions. Always model the sound a word makes and bring the child's attention to it. If the child repeats the word correctly, offer the treat and make a big deal of his or her success.

If you are a new parent, remember it is never too early to start talking to your child. In fact, experts advise talking to the child and playing soothing music while it's still in the womb! The impact a parent has on a baby is immense so make the most of it and set away time to talk to your child. Refrain from talking at your child and encourage every effort made by your child to communicate through words or gestures.

If your attempts at speech therapy are not very successful, your child may need a thorough medical check up by a pediatrician, an otolaryngologist, and an audiologist, to rule out other complications. Your child may also benefit with speech evaluation and the therapeutic sessions with a professional speech pathologist.

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It Is All About Attitudes

In this article my message to you is simple. The strength to deal with stammering is in you. All you have to do is to believe it first. And then start living it.

It's all about your attitudes.

These will help you deal with stammering, and also be an invaluable resource when the going gets tough.
We can all shift the way we think. With some practice it will become normal behavior.

Stammering is painful. This is clear enough. As fellow people who stammer you completely understand the worry, self-hate and fear I'm talking about it. You've no doubt experienced this, more times than you care to remember.

But there comes a point when you need to accept the pain, and make a conscious choice to stop creating further inner turmoil. This requires extreme courage. If you stammer covertly like me, then this can be very difficult. But it is something you must be prepared to do, in order to move on with your life.

And believe me if you look deep enough, you'll be able to take this first important step. It requires acceptance that you stammer, but also to begin to appreciate you are much, much more than the way you speak – here's a change in attitude.

Once this is done, you can treat it as a journey of self-exploration to find out who the real you, who the people around you, and indeed what the point of this life is all about. This is another way of thinking about it.

Imagine you're a scientist, and your life is one big experiment. Along the way you'll find out a number of new things about yourself. You will learn about the parts of your life, that are already well-balanced and those areas, which you need to give more attention to.

However, by looking at your life in this way, you need to have kind it yourself – allow yourself to make mistakes. This is another tricky one for people who stammer. We've sent most of our lives trying to be so perfect, that anything we believe to be less means being inadequate. However, there is tremendous fallacy with this attitude. For one, humans are hugely fallible. They always were, and they always will be.

Another attitude is to look at your experiences as just that – Just learning opportunities to grow, to figure out what works and what does not.

Which of the following would you prefer?

To either continue, to beat yourself up every time you make a mistake, because you were not able to live up to a false standard, which you created?

Or to treat the experience, or situation as a learning experience, and to move on with your life?

I know which one I would choose. No need for any heartache. Life can be a lot more fun when you look at it like this.

With any type of change work, including dealing with stammering, our inner world can sometimes cause us havoc. Your mind will remember previous times, when you did not succeed and tell you things like “I was not able to do that before. I can not do that, I stammer!”

Or your mind will conjure up pictures of you stammering in the future and will stop you from going into the very situations you need to deal with this.

Another way of looking at this is by understanding that memories about the past or visions about the future are not real. Therefore, their existence can seriously be doubted.

If ever you find yourself facing problems about stammering, remind yourself, you can always adopt a new attitude!

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How Do I Stop Stuttering – 3 Things You Must Avoid To Stop Stuttering

“How do I stop stuttering?” is a question all of us stutterers are looking to find an answer of. How to stop stuttering? What to do to stop your stuttering is important, but what NOT to do and avoid is as important. In this article, I am going to share 3 things you must avoid to stop stuttering.

1) Avoid going through stuttering treatments by the expectation of learning a “technique” which will enable you to speak fluently and HIDE your stuttering. Keep in mind that stopping stuttering or overcoming your stuttering challenge is not about what you do, it is about who you BECOME.

2) Avoid practicing your speaking tools and techniques only in an isolated therapy room or by yourself at home. Those may be helpful for warm up sessions before your practice sessions. However, real life speaking situations is where we want to see the results at, therefore practicing should take place by facing and experiencing those speaking situations by the support of your powerful speaking tools and techniques.

3) Avoid negative people at all cost. This applies to not only overcoming but also but any goal you want to achieve in life. If you want to achieve a goal you need to surround yourself with successful people who already achieved that specific goal. Those role models are what you need around you, not some negative “heros” who suck all your energy and motivation by trying to convince you why you CAN NOT achieve your goal.

There are people on internet forums, groups and even at your local support group meetings who will constantly talk about why there is nothing that can be done for stuttering since it is a neurological flaw. There might be some neurological factors involved in stuttering, however that does not mean there is nothing that can be done for stuttering. That is completely not true.

You can improve your speech to a great level where stuttering would not be an issue in your life anymore. You can remove the obstacle of stuttering out of your way and live a fully expressive, confident, successful and fulfilled life. There are hundreds of living proofs who have reached that level by overstuttering the right way.

Anyone who is seriously willing to do something about his / her speech to change everything for better, can not only reach a very high level of fluency but also can become an effective communicator and a powerful speaker. This is highly possible so do not let anyone shape your future.

Overcoming stuttering and ever stop stuttering is not an overnight fix, but if you follow the blueprint of success just like other successful stutterers, you can achieve both your speaking and life goals beyond your wildest imagination.

If “How do I stop stuttering?” is a question you ask yourself repeatedly …

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Stories to Help You Deal With Stammering

Stories are one of the oldest, yet best methods to get across lessons, particularly those which are difficult to explain.

They are also a form of entertainment, which can keep us reading, watching and listening for hours on end.

The power and impact of stories can be incredible.

Indeed, the sign of a great author is someone who can make us feel emotions. They can make us feel alive and take us away from our daily routines to a wonderful fantasy, even for a brief period.

We are also authors.

Most of us do not write our own stories. But we do have our own stories. These are the stories of our life. They can be sad. They can be happy. They can be sombre. They can be exciting. We usually create our own narratives from our experiences.

Although many of us do not write stories, we should.

Why is this?

Well for one, writing has a magical tendency of making things real. It's hard any wonder why this happens. For one, you are using your physiology to actually write something down. The very act of your hands writing or fingers typing means you are investing some emotional energy into creating your story.

And then there's the real interesting part – your imagination. You need to allow your imagination to run a wild in order to create a good story. You need to allow your creative juices to follow.

So start writing what you want to do in your life! What do you want to be? If you were to write just one chapter on how you would like your life to improve over the next year what would you write?

Remember, good stories make us feel. And you do not need someone else to write you a story or have to watch a TV program to make you feel. You can do that all by yourself!

Perhaps your stammering is causing you problems in a particular situation and now you want to approach this situation more confidently. Then write down how you will have in the situation. What will your attitude be like? Make a note of who else will be there at the time. Consider how you will feel and what you will see around you.

Keep writing until it begins to feel exciting, possible, stimulating, humorous and playful. Really begin to feel as if you are starting to live the story.

Also, stories can be adapted. If you find yourself moving into a plot, which does not help much, just change the storyline to the one you want.

This is what great storytellers do all the time. They change their writing based upon the emotion they want their readers to experience.

Remember, before you want to make any change in your life, you have to see yourself doing it. You can do this using your imagination. However, consider making this process even more powerful by writing down what you want as well.

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Should I Tell My Children They Have Dyslexia Or Not?

When you find out that your child is dyslexic often the first question that comes to mind is whether or not you should tell your child that they have dyslexia. There is certainly no right or wrong way to answer this question.

• It Is Your Decision
There are going to be people of all kinds that are willing to share with you their thoughts about whether or not you should tell your child that he is dyslexic. It would not hurt to listen to what they have to say if they have experience in this type of situation. However the ultimate choice is up to you. After a certain point of reading and listening to everyone's opinion you will come to a decision of your own.

• Telling Them They Have Dyslexia
Some parents will decide before diagnosis is even given what they are going to tell family, friends and even their child with dyslexia. They will plan out every word so the child and related friends, family, schools and anyone involved with the child's life will understand just what is happening, what to expect, and what will be changing.

• Not telling Them They Have Dyslexia
For some parents telling their child is something they are not ready for due to the lack of understanding fully what dyslexia is for their child. They are not certain what impact it would have tolling their child about their diagnosis. After thinking about the decision either or not to tell the child they are dyslexic, parents typically come to a decision of a yes or no.

• How You Feel
The way you feel when you find out your child is dyslexic can affect your decision on whether or not you are going to tell your child. Understanding your feelings will affect the way you will tell your child and how you will help your child.

• Your Child With Dyslexia
Good timing is a consideration that should be taken before telling your child they are dyslexic. Some children will respond differently to the news, you are the only one that knows when the appropriate time to tell your child is.

As stated before there is no right or wrong way of telling your child they are dyslexic. You can decide to not tell them until they are mature enough to understand exactly what it is and how you are helping them. You also have the right to tell them when you find out your child is dyslexic so they will know from the get go why they have difficulties in learning.

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Stuttering Treatment – Give Your Negative Thoughts the Flick

The Road to Speech Fluency is a Positive One

I have just completed my intensive fluency course. I feel wonderful and fluent, fully in control of my stutter. It's the first time I have ever had any level of control over this thing that has been dragging me down my whole life.

For the last week, six of us, all moderate to severe stutterers, sat in a clinic with a Speech Pathologist working on a technique known as Prolonged Speech. For many of us, this investment of time was a last resort in terms of finding some system, technique or tool to manage our stuttering. Motivation levels were not a problem, we were all just reaching to find some relief from this embarrassing and psychologically devastating affliction.

Before the course we were told that we would spend a large part of the week speaking at much slower rates than usual and that we would be speaking quite a deal differently at the end of the course. We all thought, “Great, bring it on!” By the end of the week it was true, we were all speaking differently – we were making sounds differently, breathing differently, breathing and speaking in a rhythmical manner and thinking differently. By the end of the course we were all speaking fluently, at slower rates than usual, but all very fluent and all very happy with our newfound control. We all agreed that this technique was the answer to our stuttering problems. This was probably the first time that any of us had the thought, “I have a way of controlling my stutter,” – a positive thought about something that has always bred negativity within our minds.

The simple truth is, that unless we allow ourselves to use our new technique and follow this positive thought pattern, then all those old negative 'ways of thinking' would come to the fore and stuttering would again raise its head. Maintaining fluency is driven by the individual. The best techniques fall flat without the individual trying to use them has a positive outlook regarding technique and using it in the real world.

Cognitive training and support is available and of prime importance when trying to manage stuttering. Without harnessing the mind and changing negative thought patterns that have always existed during our stuttering days, then establishing a new speaking technique can be very difficult.

Seek out this help and ensure that your road to speech fluency is ongoing and positively life-changing.

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Stuttering Treatment – Treat the Mind and the Stutter

You can have the best technique in the world to help manage your stutter, but unless you believe it can work for you, it can all be to no avail.

Many people who stutter find a good-to-excellent level of fluency towards the end of their varies stuttering treatment program, and also during subsequent practice / maintenance sessions with other recovering stutterers. The atmosphere of support that is provided during fluency training and maintenance sessions suggests to your mind that it's a safe place. Everyone is there for the same reason. We all know our new technique works, we are with others with the same problem, there is no risk to us and our mind suggests that it's safe to practice this wonderful new technique. This is all excellent and stimulating at the time. Everyone tends to pat each other on the back. The real test is away from the training environment following your treatment program or maintenance session. Will you choose to use the fluency technique in situations where you're not feeling safe, where you're not surrounded by people who also use this special technique, with people you have not met before?

Often the answer to this is NO. Alarm bells may ring the moment you step into, what I call, THE REAL WORLD.

It's important to recognize that this response is okay, it's normal. Often, exposure to the REAL WORLD sees all the emotional debris and negative thoughts regarding your stutter flood back when it's your turn to speak. This can be a barrier to the management of your stutter.

When you are considering treatment for your stutter, plan for psychological change. The change in yourself may not be immediate, but rest assured, changes must happen in order to become fluent and use good technique. A change in how you think about, and the way you perceive, yourself is of vital importance. A desire and willingness to make these adjustments will reinforce your psychological foundation so that fluency can be achieved.

Cognitive training and support is of major importance when you are trying to change something about yourself. Your negative thoughts about your stutter / yourself are not necessarily true. Seek out good cognitive training and support so that your fluency is not restricted to only behind closed doors. Cognitive training with improved self-belief will see your wonderful new fluency extend to all areas of your life.

Join me on the road to fluency.

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How Can You Stop Stuttering? 3 Things You Must Do To Stop Stuttering

I asked this question to myself hundreds of times every single day. How can I stop stuttering? How do I stop stuttering? How? HOW? It was one of the most frustrating questions of my life. In this article, I am going to cover 3 things you must do to stop stuttering. How can you stop stuttering? Here is the answer.

1) You must understand that stuttering is a challenge that needs to be approached both physically and psychologically.

You can not stop stuttering just by learning a physical technique and expecting to use it to hide your stuttering every time you speak. Likewise, approaching the problem purely psychologically will probably not be enough to achieve the results you desire in most cases.

Therefore, you need to address both the physical and the psychological aspects of the challenge in order to be able to stop stuttering.

So, the first “Must-Do” is … You must understand the big picture and put both pieces of the puzzle together.

2) You must have a strong outer game along with a tight inner game.

A tight inner game is the backbone of your game and a high quality, effective outer game is what will bring you the results you desire in real life speaking situations.

What do I mean by inner and outer game? You probably already heard me talking about these concepts before, but just in case you have not yet;

Outer game is the physical and mental speaking tools, techniques and strategies you use to manage your speech in daily speaking situations.

On the other hand, inner game is the mindset you need to be in while approaching this challenge called “how to stop stuttering”.

You must get a complete education to understand how you can answer the question “how can I stop stuttering?”. You must be mentally ready for the change. You must understand how to stop stuttering the right way! Then, you must equip yourself with effective, powerful speaking tools, techniques and strategies. Those will give you the confidence to face your fears, challenge your limiting beliefs and prove yourself that you actually can speak the way you want to speak in any situation.

So, “must-do” number 2 is … You must have a strong outer game which is supported by a tight inner game.

3) You must go out there and use both your inner and outer game skills to win this game called “how to stop stuttering”.

You can not expect to stop stuttering just by reading about it, right? Where do you want to see the results at? Yes, in real life speaking situations!

We want results in real life speaking situations, not in a therapy room or while doing a reading practice in our bedroom. You want to see yourself speaking the way you want to speak in daily speaking situations, you do not want to see yourself in a library reading about how to stop stuttering.

Therefore, you must face your fears and put yourself out there where you want to see the results at. By the help of your strong inner and outer game you'll have the confidence to face your fears and get positive results out of those scary speaking situations. You'll soon prove yourself that you can do this, you can actually speak the way you want to speak by the help of your inner and outer game skills.

Whether it is a feared sound, word or situation … if you want to overcome your stuttering challenge by dissolving those fears, then you need to experience positive results in those real life speaking situations, and the only way to achieve that is getting out there and make it happen by the help of your strong inner and outer game skills.

So, “must-do” number 3 is … You must go out there, face your fears and prove yourself that you can do it by the support of your accepted inner and outer game skills.

Here is the core question of this article;

How can you stop stuttering? What are the 3 things you must do to stop stuttering?

Here is the blueprint which will answer our most frustrating question “how can I stop stuttering?”

1. Understand what this challenge is all about

2. Have a strong outer game supported by a tight inner game

3- Go out there, face those situations and prove yourself that by the help of your powerful inner and outer game skills you can actually manage your speech and speak the way you want to speak in any situation under any circumstances. Once you build up this confidence, you will be unstoppable and the change will be inevitable.

If you are interested to learn how you can fully understand the challenge of how to stop stuttering and discover the most effective skills you need to overcome your stuttering challenge so you can stop your stuttering;

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You Must Avoid These Types Of Stutterers To Overcome Stuttering

STAY AWAY from these people!

If you want to achieve your ultimate goal and access stuttering, you MUST stay away from these people … especially in the beginning phases of your stuttering dissolution process.

Who am I talking about? Who are those people?

Let's meet our dear friends “motivation suckers”.

I am talking about people who are stutterers too, but are everywhere (on internet forums, various groups, social media sites, even at local support group meetings) talking about why there is nothing that can be done for stuttering. They constantly spread their negative thoughts and negative energy to other stutterers around them.

That's why I call those people “motivation suckers”.

Their negative attitude shakes your reality, especially when you go through hard times. You start to question everything which would mess up your belief system. You start questioning your ABILITY to succeed and make this happen for you.

They suck everyone's energy and motivation in those environments.

They keep bringing up the idea that scientific studies show that stuttering is a neurological disorder, therefore there is nothing that can be done for stuttering.

On the other hand, I have not seen even a single “motivation sucker” explaining me why there are so many stutterers out there who were able to exceed stuttering or at least improved their speech to a GREAT level!

I do not know, I am sure they have good intentions behind this behavior, may be they do not want to put the energy and work to overcome stuttering, so just having nothing to do about it makes them feel better … or who knows may be they have the fear of failure. May be they do not feel strong enough to make it happen, therefore they do not want anyone to even try to make it happen so they feel safe and a part of the “helpless group”.

Whatever the reason may be, I want you to keep what I am about to share with you in mind all the time.

I want you to remember that in order to make a cake you need to break a few eggs. Forums and real life are full of people telling us why there is nothing that can be done for stuttering.

Do not give up on your goals and dreams just because some others say so!

Do not let those people steal your hopes about your future. If I listened to those people and let them SHAPE my future, I would not be where I am today.

Yes, there is no cure for stuttering but you can learn to improve your speech to a great level where stuttering would not be an obstacle on your way to live the life you desire … a fully expressive, confident, successful and fulfilled life!

While some people come up with all kinds of excuses, reasons and explanations why a goal or dream can not be achieved, some others are actually LIVE that dream.

What makes the difference in life is TAKING ACTION!

We can make things happen by what we DO, not by what we know or what we THINK!

Of course we are living in a free world and everyone has the right to make their own decisions. This is your life, you are fully responsible for it and you are the one who will shape your future by the decisions you are going to make through your life. So do not let anyone, including me, to stick their nose and manipulate your decision and shape your future.

Your life, your future, your decision. Nothing else matters!

I guess I need to wrap this article up before it gets too long.

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How to Stop Stuttering – The Secrets You Already Know Part 1

If someone told you that one day you could be virtuously free of stuttering, would you believe it? What if they told you that you already knew the secrets to accomplishing this? What would say then? Well, if you had asked me before my late twenties I would have not believed it.

Depending on how long someone stutters, and how many different therapists and programs they have tried, they may be very cynical about the possibility of overcoming stuttering. Guess what? I understand this and that's why I want to be totally up front and honest in these next several articles. I'm going to tell you the truth and not pull any punches about how to stop stuttering and how to start speaking more smoothly and fluently. Some of the things I share with you will be very encouraging, while others may be a bit frustrating and discouraging AT FIRST. We all know that the truth can be hard to take sometimes, however, I think you'll appreciate it more.

My name is Michael Williams and I stuttered for my entire childhood, and well into adulthood. Certainly there were times when I stuttered less and times when I could barely speak without stuttering. I know how it feels to be promised to raise my hand in school or at work. I know how it feels to have to arrange my entire life around avoiding situations where I might stutter. While I failed to not let this control my life, the pressure of having to struggle with this was exhausting to say the least. Sometimes, it came to a point where I realized that I could not be really satisfied, fulfilled and as productive as I could if I continued to let stuttering limit me.

It was not until it became clear to me that stuttering, or what I call, situational stuttering (this is where one does not stutter 100% of the time, but only in certain situations) was actually a behavior or temporary condition. It was not “who” I was, it was what I did. It was also a condition that I experienced depending on a variety of different factors, like stress, confidence, self-esteem, thoughts, attitudes, emotions, health, environment and more. Now I can hear some of you saying, “Well is not stuttering genetic?” And, “How can you prove that it's not a permanent condition?” Well, I do believe that it may be genetic and in a few rare cases, permanent. However, in my case I chose to believe that it was not permanent and that I could actually do something about it. Later experience and research would bear this out.

So now I'm going to share with you the very first secret I discovered that you and I already know.

Secret # 1. Speaking fluently and smoothly is a learned behavior. Baring severe brain damage, and even in some of those instances, the human brain does not have the capacity to make new connections, create new memories and learn new information. The brain can also redirect or reorganize itself so that a damaged area is bypassed so that a non-damaged area can pick up the slack.

No matter your age or years stuttering, you have the capacity to learn new behaviors and new skills. Speaking is a behavior and a skill. Therefore, if you can learn new behaviors and new skills, then you can learn to speak fluently and smoothly. The only questions are, how and how long? Friends, let this piece of information give you hope, encouragement and inspiration. Let this empower you because, it's absolutely true. You can learn to speak more fluently and smoothly if you just learn how and practice those techniques or strategies for as long as it may take to master the skill. I have used this same philosophy to learn not only speak more fluently, but also to learn Spanish (which I'm still learning, was kind of lazy with it), how to build websites, shoot video, record audio, do graphics and many other things. Guess what? You've used this way of thinking as well to learn to read, write, drive, ride a bike, type, speak multiple languages ​​and many other things have not you? Why not apply it to speaking?

In the next article I'll share with you a second secret that you already know.

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The Ultimate Approach Of How To Stop Stammering – This Is All You Need To Know

Are you tired of looking for a solution to stop stammering? Do you feel like your life is going now just because you have not been able to stop stammering? You can give yourself a break, stop everything you're doing right now and read this short article. You'll find everything you need to know in this article.

I am going to explain you why most people fail in speech therapy but before that lets talk about our main topic.

The ultimate approach to stop stuttering. Do you think there is actually an “ultimate approach” when it comes to stop stammering or overcome our stuttering challenge?

Yes! Yes, there is!

I'm a stutterer who had gone through very tough times in my life and I know that it (an ultimate approach) exists. I am not claiming this based on my own experiences only but also based on hundreds of other successful journeys as well. You may not see those people everywhere or taking active roles in the stuttering community, but the reason of that is because they kept going with their regular life which they are now enjoying to the fullest with no stamming issues. They may not be all 100 fluent all the time but I know that there are hundreds of people who were able to reach a level where stammering is not an issue in their life anymore. Simply, they were able to remove the obstacle of stammering out of their way!

So how did they do it?

Here is the 2 critical components of your stuttering dissolution approach.

1) Inner game – Your Mentality

Anything you do in life, if you want to succeed, you need to keep the right mindset. Your mentality plays a huge role in your success. Your belief system and the psychology are extremely important factors which should never be underestimated.

So what do I mean by this?

Simple. You need to be READY for the change, you need to WANT to change and you need to KNOW how to make that change happen. You have to keep an open mind, understand that this is not an overnight cure and needs to be worked on to master this skill called speaking.

You'll have practice sessions. Not at home by yourself or in a therapy room like others but in REAL LIFE SITUATIONS. The way you approach those practice sessions are very important. Are you using your speaking tools and techniques to hide your stutter or are you using them to face your fears, challenge your limiting beliefs and prove yourself that you can do it by the help of those effective speaking tools and techniques?

2) Outer game – Your Speaking Tools and Techniques

Let's assume that your inner game (the one we just discussed above) is tight. That by itself means you are “mentally” ready for the game, but we both know that in order to win a game you need to use your “skills” as well and when it comes to stuttering or stammering your speaking tools and techniques are your outer game, the skills you need to acquire! Those are what will bring you RESULTS if your inner game supports your outer game.

Why do you think people mostly fail in speech therapies (or they get temporary results)?

Because they only focus on the outer game and using the technique, but they are using it with the wrong mindset, their mentality and the way they approach the problem is NOT right.

What we briefly discussed about above are the two extremely critical and mandatory components of the ultimate approach, the right way to stop stammering in the most effective way.

You probably do not want to make this happen only for yourself but for your family and for your loved ones as well. After all, this is a problem which affects all areas of your life and you as a complete person. But I want you to keep your hopes high, because there IS hope and there are people who made this happen no matter what others think or say about overcoming stuttering / stammering.

I tried to give you a quick overview of “how to stop stammering” in the most complete and effective way. We only scratched the surface though. In this limited time we briefly talked about how you can overcome and stop stammering so you've removed the obstacle of stammering out of your way and enjoy the life you desire.

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Stuttering Help – 3 Powerful Job Interview Tactics for Stutterers

Job interviews are one of the most fearful speaking situations for people who stutter. After all you are judged by the way you communicate and express yourself throughout the interview. In this article, you'll discover 3 powerful job interview tactics which will help you position yourself even better than “fluent” candidates.

When it comes to job interviews, we need to communicate effectively and express our thoughts and ideas freely in order to make an impression on people. On top of everything else you are performing and as a result you'll either “fail” or “succeed” at the end of the interview. I guess those factors are more than enough to cause an adrenaline rush in any person who stutters.

So, what can you do to turn that stressful situation into a success story even though you feel like stuttering is a huge obstacle on your way to express yourself and convince those people that you are the right candidate for the specific position?

Below are 3 powerful job interview tactics which you can use the next time you find yourself in any kind of job interview.

1. Address Your Stuttering Indirectly:

The sooner you do this the better it is, because it will take the burden on your shoulders. When you start to talk about yourself, indirectly stating your stuttering and briefly talking about it if needed.

However, doing this in a positive and confident manner is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT. Do not say “pity me because I am a stutterer”. I usually use humor with a short story to make my point.

They do NOT care about your stuttering as much as you think so do not focus on the fact that you are a stutterer and how bad it feels. Instead, focus on what you have been doing to achieve your speaking goals. People would RESPECT you a lot more if you ACCEPT who you are and WORK ON to become who you want to be. Trust me, a huge plus on your evaluation paper!

2. Use Stuttering To Your Advantage:

Your speech and the FACT that you have WORKED / are WORKING on it is a huge plus which will immediately DIFFER you from all other candidates. Communicate as having this challenge is a huge PLUS of you. Continuous improvement, setting and achieving goals, self development, becoming a better person and having a vision in life are great ASSETS for any candidate … and companies would love to work with such people. Do NOT TRY to HIDE your stuttering thinking you've made a better impression. By pretending you are a non-stutterer, you are shooting yourself on the foot. The fact is you are a person who stutters and working on to cover it … and the question is how are you going to use that fact at this stage?

To your advantage or to your disadvantage?

3. Use Your Speaking Tools and Techniques Openly

Hopefully this will be an easy step for you since you already mentioned your stuttering in the beginning of the interview.

Talking too much or too fast is NOT a skill. Get your thoughts together and speak with the SPEAKING TOOLS and TECHNIQUES you choose. Your goal is not modeling anyone who you actually are not, your goal is to show them you are WHO YOU ARE and you WORTH the offer!

Speaking by using your selected techniques will take away the SELF ACCEPTANCE burden on your shoulders and will lead you to FOCUS ON what you want to COMMUNICATE without worrying about BEING SEEN as a NON-FLUENT speaker.

An important note before I conclude …

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Stammering And Managing Your Emotions

Typically through a day you will go through a number of different emotions. You may wake up in the morning and feel energetic, ready for a new day. You might then end up running a little late because of traffic and you experience some frustration. You arrive at work and have an important sales meeting, and you feel a little anxiety. You're then relaxing a little when you have your lunch. After you've eaten you might be feeling a little sleepy as you sit at your desk.

You get the picture …

In the field of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) these emotions are called 'states'. Humans constantly experience states. Somebody criticizes us, and bang, we can go into an upset state. Somebody praises us and we go into a 'feel good' state. States are usually created in 2 main ways – one is by reacting to an outside incident. The other is by having thoughts about things.

You may have noticed when you stammer, or when you think about stammering, you usually feel a negative emotion inside you. This could be fear, worry, anxiety or nervousness. These are all in the language of NLP, known as states.

The great thing about NLP is that that a big portion of the field is about developing new empowering states, to replace disempowering ones. You can create new states to help you with your stammering.
Here's one simple way.

Next time you find yourself experiencing a negative emotion such as anxiety, do the following:

1. Remember a time when you felt confident or happy. Just allow yourself to really fully experience this, right from the top of your head to the tips of your toes. Allow any images to come into your mind about your confident or happy situation. Just notice how it feels in different parts of your body. Just allow this 'state' to permeate through your whole body.

2. Next amplify the state from step 1. If you need to, imagine turning the dial on a DVD player, which you use to increase its volume. In a similar way, increase your confident or happy state.

3. Once you're confident or happy state is real high, now apply this state to the emotion you had earlier.
So, if you experienced anxiety, just allow your confident or happy state to completely layer on top of the anxiety.

4. Finally, notice how your anxiety has been changed. For instance, you might now feel less anxiety or none at all.

With the above steps you've just Learned a way to change your emotions for the better. Use it whenever you¡¯re feeling down or stuck to quickly change the way you feel in a positive way.

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