I hope you read my previous article, How to Stop Stuttering – The Secrets You Already Know Pt. 1. In this article I'm going to share with you, yes, that's right, Secret # 2 and that is, “Learning to speak smoothly and fluently can be accelerated by passion.”
Okay, I can hear you say, “What in the world does passion have to do with speech fluency?” “This makes no sense at all Michael!” Let me explain. IF we can agree that for some and I believe most people who stutter, stuttering is situational. That is, they do not stutter 100% of the time. They stutter in certain situations at certain times, even around certain people or kinds of people, like those in authority, or strangers. If we can agree on this point, then we can also agree that the person does have the ability to speak fluently and smoothly, at least sometimes.
The only question now is how to expand those periods of fluency and confidence into the totality of ones life. How can we do this? The how is the learning process, the steps, techniques and strategies one uses to achieve this goal of fluency and smoothness. In this article, I'd like to discuss the drive or motivation that pushes someone to enter into and stay in this learning process.
The learning process for many is a long one. It took me several months to see a real difference in my speech. It then took 1 to 2 years to see reflecting changes. Then another 4 years or so before I actually stopped thinking of myself as a stutterer. In other words, I did not feel limited anymore by stuttering. Now, this did not mean that I never stuttered again. Because I was still a bit fearful about reading loud on queue and struggled at times to say certain numbers on the phone. I also experienced difficulty speaking Spanish, but I knew how to overcome that using the strategies I now share in my programs. But what drve me to stick with these strategies year after year until I finally reached a point where I no longer thought about stuttering? Passion! There was something I was intrinsically passionate about that drove and pushed me to keep at it until I could speak fluently and smoothly. What was that something?
For me it was the desire to help others become more productive in life. The vehicle that I would use to do this was speech. For others it may be writing, but I wanted to share via speaking live in public, on audio and later video. This desire was so great in me, it literally drve me to find a way to improve my speech and then stick with that “way” until I saw a difference. How did I know this “way” would work? How did I know if I were headed down a dead-end? Ultimately I did not know 100%. Here is what I did know … I knew that basically everything about me, including my speech was a result of my subconscious thoughts and beliefs. To put it another way, I had developed certain patterns of speech that were now a part of who I believed and thought I was. Why? Who knows. The good news was that this “programming” could have changed or at least overwritten.
My passion for people and helping, which is only one of the many gifts we have as humans (some people are great at math, art, music, mechanics, etc.) and you've got to stick with the process of overwriting that old programming with a new one that only included excellent speaking and not stuttering. Friends, without the passion I doubt if I would have had the strength or desire to stick with it. I'm not saying this is the only way to improve fluency, but I do believe it is one of the most effective and long-term strategies toward this end. What do you think?
Have you ever been so passionate about something that you persisted through extreme difficulty to achieve it? Have you ever wanted something so bad that you found a way to get it even though it took you longer than you expected? I suspect the answer to the above is yes. And, this is why you already know about this secret. You already know that passion can drive you. Now it's a matter of applying this principle of passion to speech. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this.
In the next article we'll finish up by looking at the third and final secret.
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